To feel like you look beautiful is one thing; to feel like you are beautiful is entirely another. Neither of which are easily attained states. Nor are they permanent. I know because I have spent many years chasing them both. I managed to catch hold of one or the other at different points in my life, but it’s been difficult to achieve at times.What makes it so difficult? Societies defining and limiting beauty to physical appearance…worst still, to the colour of our skins.
While prominent (and not so prominent) figures revisited Martin Luther King’s dream of future generations not being judged by the colour of their skin, I sat channel hopping in Pakistan. Each time I found a programme worthy of my attention, it was interrupted by adverts not only spreading prejudice against darker skinned people but also offering a ‘solution’, a way out for the not-so-fair – skin whitening creams!
I laughed out loud at the Photoshopped images and exclaimed “oh please!” at the ‘real testimonies’ given by women and men (yes, even men have been sucked into this dark pit of low esteem) who claimed to have had no friends, job or love interest until they managed to bleach their way to fairer skin and lo and behold they were now leading happier existences!
But as I laughed and deflected the nonsense, I was aware that many would be watching feeling down about their skin colour. These campaigns don’t solely plague Pakistan – I’ve seen the same in Bangladesh, India and in the Far East. So which role models can tan skinned people in these countries look up to for support? The few darker skinned Bollywood stars I grew up idolising now endorse skin whitening products and/or appear on screen as though they’ve been dipped in bleach.
The story and demeaning message is no different here in the Middle East where the same products are advertised and fully stocked on supermarket shelves (see picture).
Yes – the sad reality is, 50 years on from Martin Luther King’s infamous speech, prejudice against darker skin still exists and these adverts flickering in front of impressionable minds just feeds into this historical problem.
I’m not sure how I can make a difference but on an individual level I hold my dark brown face up high with pride and say:
‘Fair & Lovely’ can brandish all the products and adverts they want – I’d rather be Dark & Beautiful.
© Rabia Bashir 2013
2 thoughts on “Who’s The Fairest of Them All?”
Despite denials, alleged medical conditions and a bedazzling series of cosmetic surgeries carried out despite clear contraindications, by greed frenzied “surgeons”, Michael Jackson, a supremely talented young black boy took a journey to disaster and destruction in his blinkered, obsessive pursuit for the ideal of (white American) beauty.
A tragedy calalogued in pictorial sequence by an increasingly malicious press pack scrambling for the front page money shot of a Frankenstein freak.
In pursuit of homogenised perfection we lose the unique, the quirky and the distinctive. Be the best you can be …… but be your uniquely created self.
Nuff sed from a distinctly unbeautiful pasty, pale, fat white chap in deepest Brum, UK. Think I’ll go get a spray tan and catering pack of fat pills ???? 🙂
Thank you for reading and post and commenting Paul. I’m a huge Michael Jackson fan and it was sad to see his appearance change so drastically while I was growing up. There are others like him, less known, who have suffered horrific scarring and injuries due to using highly toxic creams and lotions in less regulated regions around the world.