Soon after settling into an expat existence in Riyadh, I began to make a number of new friends. One of them, Fia, was giving some survival advice to a new mutual friend who had not long ago arrived in the Kingdom.
“Put your protective bubble on before you leave the house,” she said to Becky. I nodded in agreement.
The three of us talking in my kitchen that day came from very different backgrounds but what held us together in friendship was our positive mental attitude. We are the type of people who like to focus on the brighter side of life, achieve goals and walk around with a constant smile on our faces (if we can help it).
But sadly, the world isn’t entirely made up of people like us. There are those who sit far on the opposite side of the spectrum. Those I like to call ‘Bubble Breachers’. Whether it is learnt behaviour or a natural disposition, they are the type of people who constantly find faults in their environment and in others and worst of all; spread their negativity.
Can you identify the Bubble Breachers in your life? They may be a member of your family, or work in your department or, as in our case, live amongst us in a gold fish bowl environment that is expat living. As much as we would like to avoid them, sometimes there’s just no escaping them.
So how do we deal with them? We go back to Fia’s wise words and put on a protective bubble – a heightened state of awareness and resilience – when leaving the sanctity of our positive spaces. The more prepared we are to maintain our positive attitudes; the more awareness we will have of how another person’s behaviour or words is affecting us. Having said that; no matter how resilient we think we may be, sometimes the negative energy carried by that person or group of people is so forceful that it can breach our protective bubble and send us home feeling deflated.
But that’s okay – we’re positive people after all! We dust ourselves off and use the experience as a learning opportunity. How can we deal with that person or group differently next time (if we can’t avoid them altogether)? We might not be able to change others but we can definitely control our own thinking and behaviour to benefit our state of mind.
Find ways to filter out the negatives and increase the positives in your lives. Protect your bubble.
© Rabia Bashir 2013
4 thoughts on “Beware of the Bubble Breachers”
A beautiful post mashaAllah!
I’ve met loads of those types, misery mongers who seek out any willing victim they can entice to listen to their constant griping and wrap them around like a spider’s web,
Nothing satisfies them, , give them a million pounds and they’d complain it was presented in the wrong colour bag!!!
These people are like vampires draining the lifeblood out of you and, given half a chance, they will ensnare you and draw you in to their dreary, doom laden world.
Don’t panic though, they’re easily defeated once you recognise their ways .. just don’t listen to them Don’t give them the time of day. And most important of all NEVER try to reason with them. It won’t work, They’re immune to logic, they’re not happy (ha!) unless they’re dragging either you, your friends, family or colleagues DOWN into their dismal world.
If you can avoid them do so, if you can remove them from your circle don’t feel guilty about it. But please don’t ever allow them to weadle their nasty way into your head or heart.
Time to repair and reinforcemy “bubble” Thanks for the timely reminder Rabia.
La la la througn your day if you need to. They’ll eventually leave you alone and go looking for another sucker to infect!!!!
I wasted too many year of my life putting up with them, trying to turn them around, beating my head against their dull skulls. If I don’t like the energy from a person I now get them out of my life and spend that valuable time with all the positive people I love.
Thank you for reading and commenting Paul – it was amusing and poetic in some ways. You gave some good tips!